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Recently I was frantically trying to get all my lost contacts for my North Texas Babysitter referral service to reappear on my iPhone 4s after a recent upgrade and they were deleted mid upgrade. During this process I ended up heading to the Genius bar at the Apple store to get some assistance.

While there I had to go through a series of tests and a continuous stream of clicks of the, “I Accept” button. Very quickly I had racked up a unknown sum of agreements to fine print I had no clue what entailed, I just need my contacts back on my iPhone! This made me think as I clicked, “I Accept” again, and I made a joke that Apple could be putting in the fine print that, “I Accept” to give away my first born child to the company at age 14, and then the family dog by the fourth “I Accept” button and so forth and no one would know until years later when they came to collect whatever it was “I Accepted” to get my contacts back in 2011. I then had a brief sense of panic, what if that was really in there? Clearly that wouldn’t be in there, right? Even in my own business I have an “I Accept” button when you join to become a member of SeekingSitters of North Texas. What are you accepting and did you read the fine print?

I can tell you no. From my own experience, sometimes we are so fixated on getting the desired result of what we want at the time; we are not sure or care at the time of the “I Accept” button. Then I started to think about Marriage, would we think of this the same if we had to go through the courtship and ups and downs to get to an “I Accept” button? Would we be so accepting if there was fine print in our relationships? How about having a child? In labor right before you deliver, a box pops up and you have to say, “I Accept” . Then in the fine print, it says it all… “I Accept” a lifetime of raising this child, the chance that my body may not snap back to how it was, caring for this child at all hours of the day and night at any age, supporting this child, driving this child around to endless sporting events, teaching this child right from wrong, and raising a good citizen. Then in the even smaller fine print, “I Accept” that my home might not be perfectly clean or as organized as a Pottery Barn catalog, or all my laundry is clean and put away? If this was the case, I am not too sure how many people would sign up for this option in life if all the fine print came with an “I Accept” button.  But then again, who reads all that fine print anyway, right?

I did accept everything Apple asked of me to get my contacts back that day and walked out of the store wondering what I had accept and when it might come back to get me. I got in my car, turned the key and on the dash was a button that I see daily but forgot that I have to click before I can use my radio while driving my car, “I ACCEPT”.

Often times once we get married and settled in our home, we have our children and our lives are set. Right?  For most couples, the dating life ends. Now it is the coexistent life that takes over. Add kids, a mortgage, stress from work deadlines, cleaning, and don’t forget scheduling all the kids care and activities the spontaneity of getting all fixed up for a date and going out… seems to be forgotten and talked about like the good ole days to girlfriends.

Recent studies show that couples who “date” or go on dates throughout their marriage are able to keep that spark longer, are happier, and yes stay married.  The process of dating is also talking. You are learning about each other. This does not have to stop after marriage even in all the chaotic scheduling in a family’s life a couple must make time for dating.

How do you do this?  Schedule it! Just like you would schedule in time to get your hair done or a Dr. appointment, why not schedule a date with your spouse?  Better yet, TELL your spouse that he or she needs to be in charge of a date night. This does not have to be a lavish dinner out, it can be something fun to do that you both enjoy or did enjoy before you were married or had children. The point is to try to still be the same people that you were attracted to in the beginning.  Regardless how long you have been together, this sometimes gets lost.

When you date your spouse, it is hard to hate your spouse. When you date your spouse, you are still getting to know each other as you age. When you take the time for a date, you are taking time for each other. Which what girl, single or married doesn’t love a man who makes time for her?

If you feel your are in need of a date night and need a sitter, we can help! We are offering $10.00 off your babysitting event booked  July 15^th – July 31^st (Booked 6pm or later) at www.seekingsitters.com

SeekingSitters North Dallas, Collin County and Denton and NE Tarrant County is committed to making sure each babysitting experience is a success. Constant monitoring of member feedback is important as well as maintaining a strong growing Professional babysitting team in North Dallas. We work closely with our members seeking a babysitter for one-time, full-time, last minute, part-time, night and weekend events to ensure our families get a certified babysitter that meets their needs and exceeds their expectations. We recruit experienced sitters and nannies with extensive experience babysitting children of all ages. And finally only the sitters that pass our extensive background investigation are accepted into the North Dallas babysitting team.

Our own experience has led us to develop all the key elements of having a fun and convenient service to provide to our members of Collin County, Dallas North and Denton and NE Tarrant County. And even though we provide an intuitive web interface for requesting a babysitter online and to review each sitters profile, our members can feel free to contact us anytime via phone or email as we are locally owned and operated. As always, we look forward to working with you on your babysitting needs!

Jennifer Calyer
972.408.6847
214.432.9002

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The new Sex and the City 2 movie has a scene where Charlotte needs a minute of timeout in the pantry from her daughter Rose.  Yes it is a crazy movie scene of mass delicate cupcakes being made in an all white kitchen and she is wearing a gorgeous Valentino vintage skirt (No less of course, it is a movie!). Take out the high fashion and it is a scene that as a young mother, many of us have found ourselves in this predicament of needing a time out.   As parents, it is totally normal to need a few minutes to compose yourself, and process your thoughts. It is totally acceptable in the workplace to pause and choose your words carefully before you address an executive or a manager,  so why not at home?  Without this, some parents might act impulsively.

I know in our household I have my days of juggling running a business, trying to keep a tidy house, and all the while trying to tend to the needs of my own children. Without a time out to recompose thoughts, nothing is done well. So next time you want to yell or lash out, give yourself a timeout. How we as parents react to our children in certain situations can affect how they do too when they are all grown up.  ……  Now about that nanny saving the day like in the movie, you might need to call me at SeekingSitters for that kind of help!